Learn to break the cycle of unhealthy relationships
Being involved in a toxic relationship – whether it’s with a romantic partner, parent, sibling, child, or friend – can be one of the most challenging situations in life. The first step is to recognize unhealthy patterns, so you can then work to overcome them.
A toxic relationship is one in which the other person’s needs are prioritized over all other aspects, including mutual trust, respect, and affection. This leads to a feeling of being trapped, controlled, and unsupported.
These relationship cycles typically begin when one person tries to control another. This behavior most often stems from issues with low self-esteem or insecurity on the part of one or both people in the relationship: for instance, the controlling party may feel threatened by a partner’s success or jealous of the attention a partner gives someone else.
Domestic violence is a hallmark of toxic relationships. In addition to physical abuse, toxic relationships can also entail emotional, psychological, and sexual abuse, all of which will have an immense toll on the victim.
Toxic relationships have dangerous implications and can easily affect one’s physical and mental health, financial stability, and social life. More worryingly, they lead to severe anxiety, depression, or even post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).
When it comes to toxic relationships, it's crucial to remember that you are not alone. Unhealthy relationship dynamics are extremely common, and affect everyone, including men, women, and trans/non-binary people. Sadly, many people stay silent for fear of being judged.
If you're feeling overwhelmed by the stress of your relationship, remember it’s possible to break the cycle of harmful patterns and reclaim your life once again.
While no two people are alike, there are many signs that a relationship is not beneficial to the parties involved. The signs can vary from individual to individual, but commonly include:
Being in a toxic relationship can have a negative impact on every area of life. Some may struggle to concentrate at work or find it difficult to enjoy time with friends and family. People can also experience physical symptoms, such as headaches, nausea, or chest pain.
Toxic relationships take a toll on mental health, as well. It’s entirely common for someone in a toxic relationship to find themselves feeling depressed, anxious, or even suicidal. That’s why it’s so critical to ask for help.
Speaking out is worth it: after getting out of an unhealthy relationship, people often feel like a huge weight has been lifted off their shoulders.
If you have identified that you are in a toxic relationship, the first step is to acknowledge the unhealthy relationship patterns you’re stuck in. This means accepting that the relationship is harmful and making a commitment to yourself to do something about it.
It can be difficult to break free from a toxic relationship, especially if you have been in it for a long time. But it is important to remember that you are not alone. Many people have been in similar situations and have managed to break free and find happiness.
If you believe that you or someone you know are in a toxic relationship, reaching out for help is crucial, both for the safety of yourself and others, such as children. It’s also important to remember that what’s happening is not your fault.
Those who experience a toxic relationship often feel stuck and as though they don't have the tools or support they need to end the relationship. Many feel overwhelmed or unsure of what to do when they’re ready to get help.
At The Life Change Institute, our therapists help clients identify the signs of a toxic relationship and provide them with the tools to move on with their life. Aside from teaching clients how to set boundaries, our therapists also teach them how to communicate and deal with conflict effectively.
Most importantly, therapists can help identify the root of the issue that got the client into the relationship in the first place and equip them with the knowledge to avoid it in the future.
If you're ready to get help, contact us today. Our professional and performance coaching services are also available nationwide via phone or Zoom meetings for your convenience.
